Two and a Half Weeks

I've now been on eHarmony for over two and a half weeks and I have had over 100 matches! This is slightly overwhelming. After 3 days I was ready to call it quits and freeze my membership but my roommate convinced me to continue with it and see it through the 3 months. I kept a few "rules" while I continued and they are as follows: be open to all connections, respond to anyone who attempts to make contact, let the men initiate contact, and be honest if you don't like them. So here's a quick recap of the past two and a half weeks.


Week One:

Out of the gate I have 10 connections - looks like things are going well, :( of the 10 connections most are 5'8" or shorter. But maybe things will start to look better tomorrow......

Good news....30 connections (it should be noted that I have allowed for my matches to be anywhere in the world and the age ranges are from 27 - 40 although most matches have been in the 33-38 range and I said that height was EXTREMELY important to me, but they keep sending me matches who are 5'4" and 5'7" - this makes me wonder if eHarmony is really listening to me at all! I also said no to kids but yet several matches have had kids as well (maybe God is trying to tell me something).

I have now begun to respond to the matches who are sending me questions, based on looks (shallow I know, but I am being honest with where I'm at) I'm not being swept off my feet. Unfortunately pictures aren't always an accurate portrayal of how the person looks so I am still holding up to my original rule of responding to anyone who initiates contact with me. Even so there are a couple of matches that I have made connection with that seem to making a positive impression, they talk about their love for God, having God in their lives and being able to share that with others. There are four that are standing out to me right now and we shall see where it goes. It makes me a little anxious, what if I end up liking all of them? What happens if they don't like me once we talk? What if there's no connection once we meet up in person? for something that is supposed to be such a easy process, it is starting to get stressful.

This is when God sent me two articles that talked about dating:

"Dating is Not about Marriage"
http://www.christianitytoday.com/singles/newsletter/mind50601.html

and

"Five Commandments of Dating"
http://www.christianitytoday.com/singles/newsletter/mind61011.html

Both of these articles really spoke to me about looking at this to see what I can learn about myself, what I can learn about from the opposite sex and what I can learn about what I am looking for in a partner. So armed with this new knowledge I delved into week two with a new energy and spirit......


Week Two:

This week is filled with more of the same...answer the multiple choice questions, answer the open ended questions, send an email and maybe exchange phone numbers. There is a little twist to this week. I will be having my first face to face - this is really more taxing than the job interviewing process. It's like I have sent out my resume for hundreds of people to see, and now I have to go to the interviews. On the flip side I am also having to read through hundreds (okay not hundreds but a lot) of resumes trying to see who is worthy of interviewing. Can love be broken down into the three time interview process? If it can then I'm almost done. One face to face and it's over. - start ordering the catering service now mom.

The choices are getting taller (half 6'0" and over and half 5'9" or less sometimes much less) so I am I doomed to a destiny of ballet flats never to wear pumps again?

We shall see where the face off leads..

Until then, keep faith alive and just BELIEVE.