"Sexless and the City"

When watching "Sex and the City" one night Carrie was entering yet another relationship charged thought/scene from her life as a single woman in her 30's living in NYC and I realized that although I could relate to some of her struggles (especially uIn the beginning God created man and when He saw that it was not good for man to be alone He created woman.....and really that's where this blog begins. Men and women were created with each other in mind, so why is it so hard for us to get together?

pon entering my 30's this past December and living in NYC - how she pulled off walking in heels I still don't know), I realized the one thing that was a HUGE difference in our lives (other than her fabulous collection of monolos) was SEX!

SEX a simple three letter word which in and of it self is not a "dirty" word yet many feel "dirty" even speaking it out loud. (I still know grown men and women who giggle at body terms, seriously.) How can this be...this is something God created, and created it to be beautiful between a husband and a wife. So what's the big deal?

Back to "Sex and the City". On the show Carrie and her friends are continually engaging in relationships (and I use that term loosely here) and I no longer can relate. Mainly because (da da dah)....I'm a Christian woman who's celibate and practicing a life of CHASTITY . Point blank - NO SEX (for those of you stuck in 3rd grade that means no getting to home base). Which in a city as sexually charged/focused as NYC leaves me with the seemingly the most hidious of all plagues - SEXLESS!. But really is it so much sex"less" as it is sex......later?

But I digress, after chatting with friends and two of my sisters (both younger & married, neither live in NYC) I realized that with sex or without sex.....the issue of relationships and how this whole thing is supposed to work - who pays for dinner, who asks who out, kissing on the first date, calling after how many days again? are all questions that (amazingly) no one knows the answer to for sure. Don't believe me go to any book store (Barnes and Noble on 66th is one of my favorites) and you will find HUNDREDS of books guiding men and women on how to interact with each other. Women and men living on different planets, "Rules" of engagement, even who should propose? It's so overwhelming that you don't know if you should even look at a man, let alone talk to one!

So how is a Christian woman to live "Sexless In the City" and still find the man of her dreams? In all honesty, I'm not sure, but I have a feeling this is going to be quite a journey, so come along with me on the first of many blogs in my attempt to find a man of God in NYC.